Dear TW Femme Anom,

I’m reaching out to seek some advice, and I hope you can help me navigate a complex and emotionally challenging situation.

For the past three years, I’ve been involved in a romantic relationship with a high-profile figure in Louisville. We started our relationship during the pandemic, where our emotional connection deepened significantly through exchanging heartfelt letters during the lockdown. Initially, I felt deeply in love, believing we were building something special.

However, as time has passed, I’ve started to question the honesty and sincerity of this relationship. Though he’s hinted at troubles in his marriage, I’m beginning to doubt his commitment to truly leaving that relationship. I had hoped to start a family with him, but now I’m uncertain about his intentions.

Recently, my aunt discovered our affair unexpectedly, and it’s left me feeling guilty and disappointed. Seeing his reaction to being discovered has also raised concerns about his character, as he became angry at my aunt, which was unfair considering the situation was beyond our control.

Additionally, he introduced me to someone as his best friend, but I later discovered this person wasn’t the real best friend he’d mentioned. There’s a growing feeling that I’m not seeing the full picture and that I may have been misled about his intentions.

I’m at a loss about how to proceed. I don’t want to resort to snooping or invading his privacy, yet I fear I might have wasted three years of my life on a relationship heading nowhere. I’m madly in love and torn between the hope of a future with him and the reality of doubts creeping in.



I beg to differ on there being no vaccine insight, and my humble opinion is you need not one but three shots: integrity, accountability and a boost of a reality check. Now I understand that this is a sensitive situation, but let’s be brutally honest here. You knowingly entered a relationship with a married man, and that, in itself, is a choice that comes with consequences. You’ve been tangled in this affair for over three years, fully aware of his marital status, and now you’re seeking advice on whether to reveal the affair to his wife? Come on sis I don’t feel Its coming from the right place.

Let’s cut through the fog: You’ve been part of an affair with a married man. Reality check. You’ve allowed yourself to be strung along, hoping for a future that, let’s face it, was never going to be yours. Whether he misled you or not, you played a part in this. Accountability. Wanting to inform the wife now, after everything, might not be the solution you’re seeking. It’s understandable to feel the need for closure, but revealing the affair at this point will only cause more harm and turmoil. Integrity.

My suggestion is that you take time for self-reflection and acceptance of your responsibility in this mess. Instead of considering blowing up his life, accept your fault in this situation, and move on. You’ve learned a hard lesson about boundaries and respect, and it’s time to put that lesson into practice.

Start by apologizing to your aunt and learning from this experience. If you truly want to be a sister’s keeper, the next time someone else’s man comes knocking at your door, shut it firmly and, if needed, let the wife know right away. Own up, learn, and move forward with genuine Intentions.


TW Femme Anom

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