Words of Wisdom

Apr 17, 2020 | Community, COVID-19

“Everything is upside down, and with the kiddos running around all day, we’ve had to implement some scheduled times for my husband and I to be able to complete our work and not feel as though we are neglecting them. Both of my companies have gone to full remote work, and we are having to completely pivot our business models so it’s an incredibly stressful time. Doing a daily walk has been very helpful for us. Also, we are not putting a tremendous amount of pressure on each other as a couple right now, trying to be mindful of the friction coming up from sharing a workspace, etc.”

“My husband and I both work, and it’s been challenging for us to continue working from home with our son’s daycare shut down. We’ve ended up doing a lot of trading off (he’ll take a two-hour shift, then I’ll take a two-hour shift). Our son is just learning to crawl, and he’s at that age that if you turn your back for a second he’s on the other side of the room (and probably about to pull the dog’s tail!).”

 “I’m a standup comedian, which as you know is completely canceled right now, and I’m getting weirder by the day. I miss performing and yelling my opinions at people so much. However, my day job, which is director of adjunctive therapy at a hospital in Louisville, has ramped up to a level 10, and I’m experiencing two different sides of this health crisis. One is having my line of work completely disappear and losing income, and the other is high stress, being in the thick of it, exposure to lots of illness, trying to stay healthy to keep working.

Advice: This is something that gives me a lot of comfort, especially working at a hospital, but I don’t know if it’ll comfort others. Don’t live like you’re trying not to catch the virus. It’ll drive you up a wall. Instead, live like you already have the virus and you don’t want to give it to anyone. For some reason that thought slows me down, helps me make smarter choices, and gives me a sense of control and a feeling of responsibility about my role in all of this.”

“I work in the restaurant industry and was laid off with a good percent of Louisville, and the faster we can get this under control, the faster we can all, hopefully, go back to work. Besides being stressed about the unknown time of us all being out of work, worrying about bills and whatnot, I’ve been making a point to stay up on chores by doing a few a day, baking bread, and trying some Korean recipes I haven’t had time for until now.
Advice: Be mindful of the people who are still providing services, and support local businesses during this time. If you are in the service industry, the LEE Initiative has been an outstanding resource when it comes to helping out industry workers with food and supplies. Don’t be afraid to reach out during this time because we all need help.” 

“The anxiety when you are always on the go and now you cannot — it is a huge urge to leave and just go. Staying put is the hardest thing. We have been going through old home movies and pictures. This helps us laugh, remember, and makes the time go fast.”

“I’m a holistic wellness counselor and have been meeting with my clients over Zoom and FaceTime instead of in-person at the office. It is so valuable to stay connected when we are feeling isolated and to continue to focus on our health during this time of crisis. This extra time at home is a great opportunity for self-care. Drink warm, non-caffeinated herbal teas, diffuse relaxing essential oils like lavender, frankincense, or cedar, and listen to soothing music like jazz by Charlie Hayden, or life-affirming like Stevie Wonder’s Songs in the Key of Life. I have been dancing in the kitchen with my 10-month-old daughter, and those are our current go-to’s.”

“My parents are both over 60, and I am afraid of giving them the virus. I know I need to stay away from them to prevent me from giving them the virus. I love to hug them both, but right now I can’t and that is so sad to me. I encourage everyone to watch out for the elderly — call the ones you know and wave to the ones in your neighborhood to make someone’s day. Isolation is not good for anyone.”

P.S. Meditation can help.

1 Comment

  1. Erica E. Turner

    Reflections on a Pandemic

    In my nearly 53 years of life, I have witnessed two major historical events. The first was the uprising after the Rodney King verdict in my hometown of Los Angeles, California in May of 1992. It was a terrifying, uncertain and emotional time. There was violence, looting and fires burning everywhere. The smell of the fires permeated the air and plumes of black smoke hung over the city for many days. People were attacked by mobs on the street simply because of the color of their skin. Residents were told to stay inside their homes for their safety. A dusk-to-dawn curfew was imposed for several days.

    The National Guard was called in to restore law and order because the LAPD was inadequate and part of the underlying problems that sparked this revolt. I saw police in riot gear the likes of which I had only before seen in history books depicting protests during the Civil Rights Movement. The National Guard came into the city with their military vehicles that looked like the tanks and Humvees we see in war movies. They carried assault rifles and were posted at banks, grocery stores, small businesses, gas stations and many street corners. It was like being in a war zone.

    Fast forward to almost 30 years later and we are amid the world-wide COVID-19 pandemic. It is killing people by the hundreds of thousands and spreading like wild fires. It is decimating entire countries, states, cities and small towns alike. A stay home order has been issued by the government. Once again, people are filled with fear and anxiety about the future. People are dying alone, without the comfort, support and love of their families surrounding them. They are isolated from their loved ones for fear of spreading this deadly virus that attacks the respiratory system and other organs.

    People have lost their jobs due to the pandemic forcing social distancing and the resulting closures of all businesses deemed non-essential. The unemployment rate is up an estimated 520% since the pandemic began. Feeding their families and keeping a roof over their heads has become a real concern for millions of people.

    Small businesses have been devastated by the months-long shut down of their livelihoods. Some will not reopen and will be forced to close their doors permanently. Their employees will have to seek employment elsewhere. City, state and federal government budgets are experiencing massive shortfalls from the lack of revenue caused by all the business closures. This will cause more job losses in the very near future.

    Now, there are protests about the guidelines put in place to save lives and prevent the spread of this highly contagious virus. Some protesters are literally up in arms about not being able to open their businesses, go to their places of worship or restaurants and bars. They object to being urged to stay home and wear face masks when they go out in public. Some irrational individuals are convinced that this is a “fake virus” and the coronavirus is equivalent to the common cold. They think the government is overreacting and infringing upon their constitutional rights.

    Anti-lock-down protesters have descended on government buildings in Kentucky, Texas, Michigan, Wisconsin, Canada, Ireland and Germany. Some are armed with assault rifles. The NYPD pepper-sprayed a large group of African-Americans not practicing social distancing while gathered to mourn loved ones being laid to rest, but peacefully tried to disperse crowds of thousands of Hasidic Jews who violated the same guidelines during a funeral for one of their own.

    Some states are beginning to open back up and easing the stay at home orders even though the coronavirus is still very active and killing more people every day. The staggering amount of lives lost, jobs lost, the fate of local businesses and the economy are a constant source of concern. The health and welfare of my family and friends is of paramount importance to me during this time.

    I pray that the entire world will recover from the harsh realities of this devastating pandemic that has ushered us into a new normal that includes wearing masks and gloves when we venture out in public. My heart breaks as I watch the evening news updates of the loss of lives around the world. I hope for better days as we all work together to recover from this unimaginable time in our lives when a virus caused the world to stop. A time when we were all #AloneTogether in this crisis. This period of our lives will someday be written about in history. Let us always remember the over 300,000 souls around the world who have perished due to this virus and the loved ones they leave behind to mourn them. May God bless and keep us all.

    Be safe and healthy.

    Erica Ever Turner


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